The first thing to consider is that it is okay for your kids to make choices that you may not agree with so that they can begin to learn what works for them and what doesn’t. You can’t always be there to tell your child what to do and as parents it is your allowance of your child being able to choose without judgment that will empower your kid to know that you trust him/her to make a choice and to learn afterwards whether it worked or it didn’t.
If you child is leaning towards a choice that you sense will be unsafe for them, model for them how to ask questions to get in touch with their awareness. Have them ask questions like, “If I choose this what will my life be like 6 months from now?” and “If I don’t choose this what will my life be like in 6 months from now?” Have them sense how each question feels (as you do the same). Most likely one will feel lighter, more expansive than the other. Teach your child to trust those sensations, even if it doesn’t make sense logically. Or even if they really want to do it. Let them know that there is an internal guiding system that we all have that can steer us away from the situations in life that can take us away from the things that we really desire in life, like happiness and joy. Part of learning to trust that inner knowing sometimes means that we go with what our head says and we go ahead and make a choice that isn’t in our best interest. If we don’t allow our children that opportunity, they will not learn to trust themselves and their knowing. It can be one of the hardest things a parent does, but the most beneficial. You can share with you child what you are sensing and what your inner knowing is from asking the same questions. Be sure that you are following your knowing and not your fear or worry. In honoring you and your child, if you sense that something doesn’t feel right, step in and offer your child a different choice and let them know why.
So being in allowance of your child making choices and asking questions about the choices can be great tools in developing choice-making that brings more awareness for you and your child.
For more ideas on Creating Choices-see my Choice game article here. It is a fun way to create choices and awareness.