Now instead of blaming someone else for my choices, I get to ask the questions like, "What would I like to do now?" or "How did that work out?" or even just laugh it off and choose something else. I don't even need to judge myself. And if I am thinking that others are going to judge me for my choices, I can let that go too and ask, "Does it really matter what they think?" It has allowed me to let go of all of the judgments and blaming that keep me from being aware from the choices that I have made. And that all contributes to me being more aware and more in my own knowing.
If you are a parent you may see your kids start to blame others for things not working out for them. I have tried telling them that they are responsible for their own choices, but even in that there can be an energy of judgment. I wonder what would happen instead if I offered a question or even shared with them my experience around blaming. When we give our children other tools to use, they can choose to move out of judgment too. And then we can all breathe easier and have more fun.