So how do we stop reacting to the actions of others? The first action to take is to acknowledge that we are doing it. The next thing is to ask what would I like to do instead? What am I being that is allowing me to be hurt? Am I being small, controlling, meaningless, pitiful, whiny, and/or mean? What can I change about any of that? What have I made so significant about caring about what others think or say to me that I would put them before myself? After asking questions such as these then you get to choose what you would like to change. It always comes down to having the choice to change what you don't like about yourself.
I have found for myself that having some added tools that can help me erase the limitations, beliefs and judgments that I have been carrying around in my subconscious can also make these changes happen with more ease and comfort. I personally like the tools of Access Consciousness® and the hands on energy technique, Access Bars®
And there are many more tools, techniques that can assist us as we evolve into more conscious beings.
And for parents out there, what can we teach our kids about how they react to being hurt, bullied, made fun of and called names. Can we teach them first and foremost to ask themselves if they believe any of that? And if it isn't true and you stand in your power of being, I wonder how much of that will disappear? It is when we buy into those accusations as truth that we continue to attract people who scorn us and love to make us miserable- because we let them.
If this is something that you struggle with, consider a session with Mary Dravis-Parrish, Parent Whisperer and Access Bars Facilitator. Contact her here.