What if as parents we stepped into being more conscious and aware? What if we became more present in all areas of our lives? What if we looked at having more possibilities, choices, joy, fun and living in our lives? Would that demonstrate to our kids what conscious living is all about? Sign me up. It all sounds wonderful. BUT how do I do all of that, especially if I wasn’t raised in that environment?
The first step is getting out of judgment. This includes judgment of you, your kids and the world around you. When I find myself judging, I turn to gratitude to get me into a different mindset. It is extremely difficult if not impossible to be in judgment and gratitude at the same time. Naming three things that I am grateful for at that moment changes the energy. Digging to discover gratitude for the person I am judging also helps me see them in a different light. Finally, allowing that person to have their own point of view without having to agree with it or react to it, just acknowledge it as their point of view brings about a different energy as well.
Imagine yourself getting dressed. As you look in the mirror you notice something about your body that you don’t particularly like, maybe a bit more weight. As you look in the mirror you judge your body for not looking as great as it once did. Now instead of judging it, you choose to move to gratitude for all that your body does for you. Get the feeling of the change of energy that has just taken place. Asking your body how you can be a better contribution to the health and appearance may also be of assistance. Add to this scene your 3 year old daughter who is peeking around the corner, watching you. What is she learning from you?
Tommy is a 5 year old with a temper. He chooses to yell and scream when it is bedtime. Tommy’s mother is at her wits end and thinks that Tommy is being bad and making her life difficult. What would happen if she stopped judging Tommy for his behavior and began to feel gratitude for all that he is, and view his behavior as just an interesting choice. Feel the energy change? This is different than ignoring him. She has actually shifted the energy by taking the judgment out. Now Tommy can continue to rant and rave but his mother doesn’t have to be the effect of it. She can also begin to ask some questions that will open up other possibilities for her and Tommy. The questions can be something like, “What can I do that will be of help for Tommy?” The Universe will provide the possibilities once the question is asked. Then Tommy’s mother can choose from what shows up. Maybe she chooses to let Tommy choose when to go to bed, letting him discover for himself what sleep he needs and what works best for him.
Children like being in the presence of people who don’t judge and are in allowance of them. They learn it is possible to live together in peace and harmony. What a gift to give a child!