Are you attracting the relationships that create more joy in your life?
Are you ready for someone to love you just for you?
How are the relationships in your family?
Would you like to improve your relationship with your children or grandchildren?
If you aren't happy with the love that is or isn't showing up in your life perhaps there needs to be a switch of focus. Ask yourself truthfully, how much do you love yourself? How much time and energy do you give to YOU? Do you put everyone else before you? Do you feel uncomfortable speaking up and letting people know that something doesn't work for you? Of do you let other people's desires trump over yours?
I know this story all too well. And on one rainy day it all changed. The day my son died, I knew that I had to start making a life for me. If I wanted to continue to live here on this planet, things needed to be different and the only person who could change those things was me! I wasn't sure how that was going to happen but I used some of the ideas I share here and I have to say, "I love my life."
Is now the time for you or do you want to wait until your bottom drops out, if it hasn't already? Are you ready to really have all of you? What if you let go of all the beliefs that you carry about how selfish and wrong it is to love, care, nurture and be kind to you? What if you began to see that "Love your neighbor as yourself" really means loving yourself first so that anyone else you love will truly feel loved. What if by loving yourself you show and give others in your life permission to love themselves? What if by loving yourself, the world begins to experience what the word LOVE really means?
If you are truly ready to have all of you, you can start by taking this moment to acknowledge that you are a gift just for being you. You can stop trying to please everyone and start pleasing yourself. This will take effort and choice and each time you choose to do something for you, you will gain more awareness of just how much fun it is to be YOU.
When I started doing this, it wasn't easy, but the more I made choices for me, the more I discovered how cool I really am. I made friends that really care about me. I have a relationship that thrives because we love ourselves first. Some days I fall into my self judgment, but then I know right away how self destructive that is and change my thinking into how grateful I am for me.
I will warn you that as you become more of who you are, there may be some people in your life who liked you better the other way and will resist you being you. My suggestion is to let them go. If someone in your life is not allowing you to be the YOU you desire to be, why would you want them in your life? Wouldn't you rather attract people who get who you are and appreciate the gift you be to yourself and to others? How much more joy will you experience in life? How much juicy love and fun with others will you have?
You will still do things for other people, but from a totally different place. No longer will people steal energy from you as you now step into doing and being what works best for you. Life will begin to have a flow of ease, joy and fun about it.
I invite you to join me in making February your own I LOVE ME month. Here are a few tips to get you going. Let's see what changes happen in one month and then beyond.
Below are some questions you can ask to move into being more of you. As you ask the questions, be aware of what shows up for you. Avoid trying to answer them from your head but rather feel into which possibilities feel light and expansive. Don't judge yourself if taking a bubble bath before dinner shows up as light and fun but then you go to the judgment or wrongness of that. Those thoughts don't really belong to you. How much better will dinner be if you allow yourself to have a bubble bath before?
QUESTIONS TO ASK:
What can I be or do today that will give me joy, pleasure and fun right away and in my future?
What am I refusing to choose that if I would choose it would give me more of me? What would I like to change in my life that would allow me to see me as the gift I truly be?
If I choose this, what will my life and my future be like? If I don't choose this what will my life and my future be like?
What is right about me that I am making so wrong that I can't see the gift I truly be?
Does this work for me? What else is possible?
When something doesn't work, let other people know, that doesn't work for me.
When judgments come up about doing something for yourself ask:
Who does this belong to? and acknowledge that it most likely doesn't belong to you but it was something you decided was true for you. Let that go and step into choosing based on what is true for you. The most difficult part of this for many is to choose for yourself. No one else can do that for you.
Every day look in the mirror, really look and see who you really see. See the gift that you are to the world. Tell yourself "Thank you for being here. I love you with all my heart." Notice how easy or difficult it is to do this. Notice if you start to judge yourself, how you look or begin to insert "but". Each time you notice any of that happening, STOP and choose to be grateful instead. I promise you it will get easier each day. Learn to laugh at your mistakes and just know you can choose to do things differently the next time. Some people may want to journal about this exercise and then look back in a month and see the progress you have made.
BE NICE TO YOU
As you plan each day be sure to include something that you will do that day just for you and then make sure you do them. Some ideas are: do your favorite hobby, go for a walk, read a book, take a bath, sit and enjoy nature, write in a journal, exercise, shop for foods that give you a healthy body and whatever you choose to do, do it with joy, fun and enthusiasm. Join our Face Book group and see what others are doing to make February a month of being and loving you! https://www.facebook.com/groups/1441414009423523/