Do you find yourself bewildered by people who create amazing lives without much effort?
If so, I get it and have been there too. In my curiosity, I began to ask some questions about what my life would look like if I could befriend ease. And even though I couldn't know exactly what my life would look like, I had a sense of "Ahhhhh" and a lightness that lifted a dense and heavy weight from my body. I imagined being able to navigate through life in a flow of ease and grace.
To begin to have more ease, I needed to discover what was keeping me from having it naturally. As I examined my beliefs, I realized that I carried the belief that in order to be successful it was vital to do 2 things. The first was to always make the right choice and the second was to work hard. And based on these two beliefs I began to fashion my life only to meet life with anything but success and joy. I never considered myself successful or even happy even though I did all I could to make the good and right choices and to work as hard as I could. All my relationships were fractured and disjointed, mostly because I was trying so hard to be someone I wasn't. I was making choices based on what other people or institutions said were the right thing to do, not by asking questions about what would be best in my life. I wasn't willing to be the different being I am here to be.