Congratulations you are a parent! Whether you are a new parent, a parent of teens and adults, or children of ages in between- you have been chosen. Your kids chose you to be their parent. They did not come with a manual, which can cause some confusion for parents as they try to apply how they were parented only to discover that their kids require something different. How many of us turn to experts to tell us how to raise our kids? Although many “experts” may have some good advice, what if you already know all that you need to know in order to be the parent that is best for your child?
To be an authentic parent means to own who you are and all that you desire to be and to act according to what is true for you, not the world outside of you. Then you parent from that place in order to empower your children to become the authentic people that they truly are. I am writing this book not to tell you how to parent but rather how to discover more of your authentic self so that you can parent from being the true you. I can’t think of a better win-win for families.
Many of us avoid looking at ourselves in the mirror because we don’t like what we see and if we don’t see it, we don’t have to do anything to change it. What if by looking in the mirror you were able to see the parts of you that aren’t really you and you can begin to let go so that the genuine you can show up? What you do with the image you see is up to you. I have found it more to my benefit, and thus to my children’s to look deeper and see what it is I don’t like about that image and begin to change it. A wise teacher told me that whether you are a parent, teacher, counselor or good friend, you are at your best for others when you are focusing and being the best you, you can be. That has been my experience.
Have you ever thought that you had to know it all in order to be any good at anything? I certainly did. And even though that sounds pretty silly as I share those words, I have found others who share the same underlying belief. What if you already know all that you need to know for this moment and the rest will come as you search. Once this is acknowledged life becomes much easier. I discovered that I do not need to constantly judge myself but rather spend more time on changing what isn’t working by changing the choices that I create. I create new possibilities and choices by simply asking questions. Don’t worry if you are wondering how that is done. We will go through it step by step. The main idea to hold onto right now is that you are doing the best you know how and if you are open and willing you can do even more.
“Today you are you! That is truer than true!
There is no one alive who is you-er than you!