- Do you get frustrated with doing the same thing and nothing changes?
- Do you find yourself often feeling low, empty, hopeless and out of control?
- What if you could access a switch that would allow you to turn on your power to change?
- When we don't know how to change something and we keep repeating the same pattern over and over, we turn off our power to be able to change and turn on our response activation system, which only runs from what it has experienced in the past.
The response activation system may be powered by guilt, fear, doubt, shame, or some other force that keeps one from being free to choose something different.
What is needed is a way to override that system and be empowered to make different choices.
Here are some simple steps to begin to shift what it is you would like to change and turn on your power to be more than you thought you could be. Apply these steps to any area that you are struggling to change. The above audio is an example of using these steps to remove guilt.
Step 1- Ask, "Who does this _______ belong to?"
Most of what we experience through our thoughts, emotions and feelings are not ours. We have taken them on as ours and add them to our belief systems without ever questioning where or who these concepts came from. When asking this question you need not know who exactly it belongs to, but rather getting the sense that it isn't yours.Acknowledging this is the beginning to be empowered to change it. Once you know that it isn't yours, you can return it back to its owner by simply say - "Return this ________ back to sender."
Example: Who does this sadness belong to? A sense of feeling lighter when you ask indicates that it isn't yours. Return all of this sadness back to sender with ease and consciousness. Continue to return to sender until you sense it lifting. It may take many repetitions.
Step 2- Destroy and Un-create any part that you are holding onto as yours?
As the creator of your life, you have the power to destroy and un-create any part that isn't working for you. And although you have identified that this issue isn't yours, you may still be holding onto parts of it for any number of reasons. Perhaps it had some value for you at some time in your life, but it no longer is in your best interest. So you can simply state that I now destroy and un-create all of this. Notice the difference in destroying and un-creating as opposed to letting go. With letting go, there is always the option to pull it back in, but with destroy and un-create, it will take more effort to re-create the same thing.
Example: Everywhere I am holding onto and claiming this sadness as mine, am I willing to destroy and un-create all of it? answer YES! to claim that you are no longer holding on this. You are willing to allow it be uncreated.
Step 3- Ask, "What else is possible in this situation that I haven't even considered?"
By asking this question you open up to new possibilities for creating something different. You activate the Universal Law of Ask and You Shall Receive. You are now willing to have a different way of handling this situation - if that is even what is required. Know that when you ask, you will at some point perceive what else is possible. Be willing to allow it to come to you in the time frame that is most beneficial for you.
Example: What else is possible about this sadness that I have not considered yet? Is there anything else I need to know about this? If so what? Allow the question to be and after asking it, go on with your day and the awareness will come, usually when you stop thinking about it.
Step 4- Choose something different.
Now comes the action part. Choose to do or be something different. There are infinite ways that this can look. Step 3 will contribute to your awareness of what else is possible for you to be or do. Making a conscious effort to do different, can be the shift that will allow you see that so much more is possible. Remember that choices are just choices and that each choice gives more awareness. Choices are not right or wrong. When a choice doesn't work any longer, choose something else or go back and begin with step one.
Example: I know I can choose something different than being sad. I acknowledge that this sadness is a choice. The choice I would like now is to be in joy. What can I be or do now to be joy? Taking a walk brings me joy, I will go for a walk now.
Practice-
Each day we encounter situations that offer us the opportunity to apply these steps. It will take practice. The more you apply the steps and get to the freedom to choose for you, the more ease you will have and you will become more aware of where you are not choosing for you.
Most of what we experience through our thoughts, emotions and feelings are not ours. We have taken them on as ours and add them to our belief systems without ever questioning where or who these concepts came from. When asking this question you need not know who exactly it belongs to, but rather getting the sense that it isn't yours.Acknowledging this is the beginning to be empowered to change it. Once you know that it isn't yours, you can return it back to its owner by simply say - "Return this ________ back to sender."
Example: Who does this sadness belong to? A sense of feeling lighter when you ask indicates that it isn't yours. Return all of this sadness back to sender with ease and consciousness. Continue to return to sender until you sense it lifting. It may take many repetitions.
Step 2- Destroy and Un-create any part that you are holding onto as yours?
As the creator of your life, you have the power to destroy and un-create any part that isn't working for you. And although you have identified that this issue isn't yours, you may still be holding onto parts of it for any number of reasons. Perhaps it had some value for you at some time in your life, but it no longer is in your best interest. So you can simply state that I now destroy and un-create all of this. Notice the difference in destroying and un-creating as opposed to letting go. With letting go, there is always the option to pull it back in, but with destroy and un-create, it will take more effort to re-create the same thing.
Example: Everywhere I am holding onto and claiming this sadness as mine, am I willing to destroy and un-create all of it? answer YES! to claim that you are no longer holding on this. You are willing to allow it be uncreated.
Step 3- Ask, "What else is possible in this situation that I haven't even considered?"
By asking this question you open up to new possibilities for creating something different. You activate the Universal Law of Ask and You Shall Receive. You are now willing to have a different way of handling this situation - if that is even what is required. Know that when you ask, you will at some point perceive what else is possible. Be willing to allow it to come to you in the time frame that is most beneficial for you.
Example: What else is possible about this sadness that I have not considered yet? Is there anything else I need to know about this? If so what? Allow the question to be and after asking it, go on with your day and the awareness will come, usually when you stop thinking about it.
Step 4- Choose something different.
Now comes the action part. Choose to do or be something different. There are infinite ways that this can look. Step 3 will contribute to your awareness of what else is possible for you to be or do. Making a conscious effort to do different, can be the shift that will allow you see that so much more is possible. Remember that choices are just choices and that each choice gives more awareness. Choices are not right or wrong. When a choice doesn't work any longer, choose something else or go back and begin with step one.
Example: I know I can choose something different than being sad. I acknowledge that this sadness is a choice. The choice I would like now is to be in joy. What can I be or do now to be joy? Taking a walk brings me joy, I will go for a walk now.
Practice-
Each day we encounter situations that offer us the opportunity to apply these steps. It will take practice. The more you apply the steps and get to the freedom to choose for you, the more ease you will have and you will become more aware of where you are not choosing for you.