If you observe animals in nature, they don't control their offspring, but rather they teach them to be aware by modeling their own awareness around danger and finding what they need to survive. Perhaps our problem is that we have had our awareness turned off for so long that we don't know how to model it for our kids. Could it be that we could learn a thing or two from them while they are young and still have some awareness? If we let go of our judgments and limiting beliefs and open up to new possibilities will our kids have what they need to create their own wonderful and amazing lives?
As our children get older, if we have trusted them to choose choices that will work for them and have allowed them to learn from those choices we will be able let go of our worry, knowing that we have empowered our kids to be aware and have given them a space to be confident that they do know what is best for them. It is never too late to begin the process. We all would like to have such confidence and the freedom to choose.