As I was reading this article, I was congratulating the adults who were willing to have the kids participate in creating food options that work and taste good for them. What would happen if we could trust kids to know what they know in order to contribute to the changes that our world needs? What would happen if adults would trust kids of any age to come up with possibilities that create more ease? Just imagine asking your 3 year old what are the possibilities of getting their toys picked up, getting ready for bed, choosing what to wear, and whatever else would help to make your day easier. Kids want to be a contribution and don’t feel that they are when they aren’t given the choice or opportunity.
I was impressed with one dad who recently told me that he just didn’t have time to make the kids’ lunches at night. So he asked them, “What could they do to help get the lunches made before bedtime?” How surprising it was to the dad that both kids ages 8 and 5 jumped up and made their lunches. Plus they made lunches that they liked and would be sure to eat and not throw out. See how easy it can be to place trust in your kids to get the job done if you just show them that if they ask a question, the possibilities begin to show up – and not just for them but for the adults too.
Teaching kids at an early age that you trust them to know what to do instills in them the confidence that they require to trust themselves. Ask yourself how much do you trust yourself to know what is best for you? And if you don’t trust you very much, how much did others trust you to know what was best for you growing up or did everyone around you tell you what was best without letting you find out for yourself. Can you create some different choices for your kids? How much ease and joy would that bring to your life and theirs?