It is in the act of being willing and saying, “Yes” that the energy shifts and new possibilities arise. This mother went on from there to ask questions about the origin of this “need” that she created. She began to see that this “need” was actually keeping her from creating a life that allowed her to be all of her. She could be set free from the chains and so could her children.
Please note that your children are not your creation. Therefore you do not get to choose to destroy and uncreate them. If you are treating your children as if they are your creation, then you are limiting their capacity to create their own life. Imagine being on the receiving end of that. It is not surprising that many adults grew up not knowing that they are the creators of their life. They also have missed out on the awareness of all that they have created and all that they are capable of creating. Let’s not let that happen to our kids. Acknowledge your child as the creator of his/her life and give them permission to destroy and uncreate what doesn’t work for them too.
How do you use this tool? Simply acknowledge what isn’t working for you. You may want to begin with the questions that we have already accessed awareness around. An example would be that a parent discovers that they are parenting from a place of proving that they can parent better than they were parented. Knowing that this is a form of proving and full of judgment which keeps the parent from allowing the true self to come through to be the authentic parent one knows she/he can be or desires to be even if he/she isn’t sure of it yet, one chooses to release it. To use this tool, simply say, “Everything this belief I have brings up about how I parent am I willing to destroy and uncreate?” For those who want to add in the clearing statement of Access Consciousness® say, “Right and Wrong, Good and Bad, POC and POD, All Nines, Shorts, Boys and Beyonds.” *go to www.theclearingstatement.com for full explanation
When we are limiting ourselves we feel contracted and small. As you do this process you will begin to sense that the limitations around that point of view will subside and will create more expansive space. It may take several repetitions of the statement since we hold these beliefs on various levels and apply them to different aspects of our lives but with repetition many people find release and a place that they can no longer be affected by the belief and are free to create something new or respond in a different way.